Looking for Online Love? This is how to make the perfect Online Dating Profile

Posted: March 23, 2015 in Lifestyle
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(By Ian Lang)

A compilation of 4,000 studies found that when it comes to online dating, little things (like your screen name) are just as important as the more obvious things, like your photo. They also used their findings to produce a fairly comprehensive “do’sand don’ts” list. Got a pen?

“Online dating” is so ubiquitous at this point that the “online” moniker is hardly fair — it’s become just another way to meet new people. Despite its mainstream appeal, many men still find it vexing. Now, a study published in Evidence Based Medicine reveals what makes some guys’ profiles successful, and the findings may surprise you.

For starters, little things matter — a lot. They found that your screen name can affect your chances just as much as your photo or your headline. You’ll want to avoid words with negative associations, like “little,” or “soft.” Interestingly, you’ll also want to choose something beginning with a letter in the first half of the alphabet — those names tend to be associated with multiple measures of success, including academic and financial. Also, avoid names like “HotAbz4U.” Women are more attuned to words that indicate intelligence, not physical attraction.

Their other advice is pretty standard: If you’re funny, show rather than tell. Don’t spend more than 30% of your profile talking about what you’re looking for (keep the rest about who you are). Include in your photos at least one where you’re making a genuine, eye-crinkling smile. Include photos that show you in a group setting. Interestingly, when it comes to photos, conventional wisdom about avoiding other women isn’t always true. Women actually find you more attractive when they see other women smiling at you, and touching is actually OK — provided it’s the upper arm only. The rest of their advice:

Once interest has been piqued:

Do personalize any email invitations to correspond online. Duh

Do make it short and sweet

Don’t be afraid to use poetry, preferably rhyming with the potential date’s headline

Once contact has been made:

Do ask open questions

Do respond promptly: eagerness is not a turn-off

Don’t write a novel, but enough to indicate generosity with time

Do introduce humor

Do disclose some personal information

Don’t sell yourself as a rare commodity that is worth having

Own The Conversation

Ask The Big Question: Will information like this create a more level playing field, or will it just help those who are already good at online dating get better?

Disrupt Your Feed: I don’t care what they say, I’m staying the hell away from poetry.

Drop This Fact: Over 41 million people have at least tried online dating. At this point, not trying it makes you the weird one

*Lifestyle Magazine


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